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I heard the news from my wife on that Saturday
morning and the painful memories returned. She rushed into the bedroom to tell
me she unexpectedly got an alarming phone call! The space shuttle Columbia had
just broken up during its reentry to earth. My first feelings were that of
utter sadness for the astronauts and their loved ones. Then instantly…my
mind returned to exactly where I was 17 years earlier when I heard about the
shuttle Challenger disaster. I was in Oklahoma City and a manufacturer’s agent
salesman had picked me up at the airport to make joint sales calls together.
When we arrived at our very first call, the sad news was on the television.
Needless to say, no one was in the mood to buy or sell anything on that
heartbreaking day in history.
However, in spite of these setbacks and tragedy,
mankind will continue to explore space. The reason is because mankind’s need
to explore the outer reaches of our world has always been inside our
deepest psyche. If you examine the history of mankind,
this natural urge for exploration and discovery has always been within us. From
man’s earliest origins there has always been a desire to survey and climb the
next mountain, cross the next river or explore the next valley. In the 15th
century most of Europe believed the world was flat and if you ventured out too
far you might fall off! Yet, the natural urge to go “beyond” could not be
denied and some still took the risk anyway! An existing but unknown continent
was discovered by Europeans, quickly explored and rapidly colonized. In 1903,
the Wright brothers inaugurated the age of flight near Kitty Hawk, N.C. In only
66 years man leapt from the first flight at Kitty Hawk to setting the first man
on the moon in 1969.
It is hard to explain in detail why this
need for voyage and discovery lies deep in the heart of men and woman. Perhaps
the best answer is because we somehow know it is our destiny to explore
and understand the universe. Yet there is a startling contradiction to this
fact that relates to personal leadership. Here is this contradiction. Yes, man
has an passionate need to conquer space. We have conquered most of the physical
world we call earth. We have risked our lives to begin to conquer outer space
and mankind will continue to do so. But on the other hand, the least
explored space for most of mankind has been, and continues to be…inner
space. What a paradox that mankind has been so obsessed with exploring and
developing outer space and so negligent with exploring and developing the inner
space of our own minds!
Why is the gray matter between our two ears
so difficult to really discover? Why do so many of us fear the need to explore
why and how we think, and act as we do?
Why is it so hard to colonize our minds with newer and better thoughts
and ideas? One of the reasons is certainly fear. We fear things like the human
mind, a vessel we have not made but one that has so much control over
us. We may fear what we might find if we journey into inner space!
Examining ourselves makes us vulnerable and may starkly reveal to us our own
weaknesses. We would rather experiment and explore things we have
made and can control more easily! To journey into inner space requires
time, preparation, self-discipline and a great degree of will. It is true that
we all have free will but will power is not free, and requires a
great personal sacrifice to grow to greater levels. Few people seem
willing to leave their mental “comfort zones” and make the necessary personal
sacrifices required to get to the next level of their own growth.
This is why each person perceives the world
from the fixed paradigm of their present mindset and culture. Our
personal worldview does not necessarily see the world as it truly is, but from
the viewpoint of our background, culture and present frame of mind. Our
worldview is often comfortable, but the price we pay for this level of comfort
is that our thinking becomes fixed and limited. Because our present mindset is fixed,
it “colors” or reinterprets reality. Therefore it can deceive us into accepting
distorted thinking. It is for these reasons that we must take the time to
routinely explore and analyze what is going on within the inner space of
our heads. Don’t take this vast undiscovered world for granted. It has
phenomenal untapped potential for greatness and it is waiting for its very own
explorer to find it! Presently there is a commercial on television that always
gets my attention. In the commercial an elderly man is swimming and the
voiceover proclaims, “while you were out…life called, and you’re LATE!”
Many of us get so wrapped up in the daily responsibilities and cares of life
that we forget why we are here. One of those things we neglect is the fabulous
resource that resides within our heads.
Personal leadership is
possible when we invest the time and resources needed to develop mental mastery. Yes, outer space is important but the first
space that needs to be discovered, explored and conquered is your own
mind. Within it is a world of fabulous possibilities, unknown skills, and
unbounded creativity. But there is a barrier and it is formidable. This barrier
is girded upon a complex structure built by selfishness, comfort, and vague
values. When we begin to examine these barriers individually, we provide
ourselves the opportunity to truly explore inner space to a degree we
never have before. It opens up a completely new world! Allow me to discuss each
of these latent barriers.
Selfishness is at the root of our
human existence. As infants it is a natural and beneficial survival skill.
Since we are totally dependent on others and helpless as infants, we express
our needs to be clothed, fed, cleaned, and burped…now! However, as we
grow and mature, we are supposed to grow beyond the infantile response of
everything being about “me” and “now”. Life is a maturing process where we
should grow from dependence toward independence. and ultimately into
interdependence. Today’s personal leader must grow far beyond an
attitude of selfishness to the attitude of service. All smart leaders
understand that to achieve good things requires the cooperation of a team of
people dedicated to a cause. These people (respectfully called
followers) are individuals. They also have personal emotions, wants and needs
that deserve to be fulfilled.
The goal of an effective leader is not
simply to “get the job done” by any means available. That is not leadership; it
is tyranny. The goal of an effective leader is to meet the needs of
their followers. This will naturally result in the encouragement and motivation
of the followers to work together and sacrifice as a team in order to “get the
job done”. The followers of a tyrant wait patiently for the demise of
the despot, because he or she is really despised. On the other hand, the
followers of a leader energetically serve each other and the “cause”
because they respect or even admire the leader. Personal leadership is all
about maturing from a selfish attitude and perspective to an interdependent
perspective oriented in an attitude of service toward others. Every great world
religion has as one of its major tenants the powerful philosophy of living a
broadminded path away from self and toward service. Selfishness has
destroyed more relationships and ruined more opportunities than any other
serious personal flaw. Have you begun your personal journey into space? As you
send your mental probe into inner space, do you still see childish
self-centered motives or principled maturity? If you see the need for more
progress, the time to begin is right now!
Comfort is a human need. It provides a
sense of security and accomplishment. We often look upon comfort as the reward
for a job well done. Within our “comfort zone”, we do not feel anxious or
threatened. This often helps us to be more productive. These are good things,
but we must also be aware of the pitfalls. Comfort can lull us into a false
sense of security and accomplishment! This happens to businesses every day.
Comfort makes them bureaucratic and unresponsive to the needs of customers.
They stop being innovative and creative. They rest on their past
accomplishments and presto, they wake up one morning with a competitor owning
their markets and profits.
As individuals, this can
happen to us as well. Comfort (and the desire to attain more of it) can potentially
destroy us. It can lull us into a deep sense of self-satisfaction. We may stop
growing or maturing because the comfort replaces self-examination and
introspection. We may stop becoming passionate about good causes or achieving
noble goals. We may stop caring about the needs of others because…after
all…we are comfortable. Like all good things, the personal leader
values and appreciates the right degree of comfort, but seeks a balance in
life. This is one of those vital areas where too little or too much can be
harmful, but the right balance is fulfilling and healthy. As you begin
to explore and conquer inner space, take a candid look at your “comfort
zone”. Is it big enough that you feel secure, stable and accomplished? Or has
is become so large that it is now a barrier to personal growth and the
ability to prod yourself forward? Here is a hint…sometimes we must leave
our “comfort zone” to expand our horizons and get to “the next level” in life!
Vague values plague many people. It is a terrible emotional
disease because decisions or actions are not determined by their validity or a fixed set of
standards, but by expediency. Within recent years, a former consultant to a
past American president has stated that when the president would wake up in the
morning, one of the first things he would do was to read the nightly poll
results taken on major issues. He did this to determine his opinions and values
about these major issues. If the majority of people favored a particular
stance, the president was an ardent supporter…that is until opinion shifted.
This is a sad but true example of what can happen to any of us when our lives
are not based on firm moral principles.
Values which are vague or nebulous are not really “values” at all!
According to the American Heritage Dictionary, the word value means “A principle, standard, or
quality considered worthwhile or desirable.” Something that is of real value
is considered a principle or standard to live by. It is not something that is
easily changed or abandoned depending on the situation or expediency. As we
explore inner space we need to make sure we know what our values are. We
need to candidly ask ourselves if we live by them, and model them. If we don’t,
we run the risk of hypocrisy and that is one of the surest ways to alienate
others and sabotage a worthy cause or goal. If you find your values are vague,
you have limited your capacity for personal leadership. It is time to discover
why and how your personal values were established. It is time to honestly ask
yourself why they are vague. It may also be time to evaluate what these
poorly defined values have done to you and build a new and better
value system!
In conclusion, it is an incredible paradox
that mankind has spent so much effort and resources in leaving our planet to
explore outer space, while neglecting exploration of the inner space of
the human mind. Frankly, the reason we do this is because we believe the
journey into outer space is easier to accomplish than a voyage to inner
space. The former deals
with science, physics and mathematical principles we can calculate and
comprehend. The latter deals with emotions, fears and a human psyche we are yet
to truly understand or appreciate. If you want to expand your leadership
qualities in this new century, it will require you to go the extra mile and
beyond what has been expected of leaders in the past. It is imperative that you
understand yourself and your motives in order to truly value and respect
others. What you will find there may give you the important tools you need to
transform your thinking to a greater summit.
So go ahead, make that essential investment
in yourself. Set aside some time and your ego to take a revealing trip. Begin
to develop a passionate need to conquer space…your inner space!
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About the author:
Greg
has over 25 years of sales and marketing experience within the electrical
manufacturing industry. Some of his positions have included being a National
Sales Manager, National Marketing Manager and Regional Sales Manager. He also has an extensive 35 years experience
in public speaking and has written articles for various publications. Greg has
a Master of Arts degree in Leadership from Bellevue University, where he has
served as an adjunct professor. He is the founder of weLEAD Incorporated, a
nonprofit organization chartered to promote personal and organizational
leadership. Greg's personal site is located at http://www.greglthomas.info