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What is Failure?

-One Leader’s Perspective

By Greg L. Thomas

When I was a child my uncle had a favorite saying. When things would go wrong he would mutter, “My mother said there would be days like this”. Then he would immediately opine…”but she never said there would be so many of them and they would all follow one another!” Do you consider yourself a failure? Do you look at your past or present achievements with a sense of disappointment? Have you attempted to be a servant-leader only to feel your efforts have been in vain?

Perhaps you have had goals or dreams that have not been fulfilled. Maybe you have lost your zeal and enthusiasm about the future. Everyone goes through the valleys and shadows of life. Many of the greatest leaders who ever lived experienced a period of “exile” or despondency in their lifetime! Some days and seasons of life are very good, and some days are far from good. It is certainly true that when we feel we have “missed the mark” or failed, we should seriously examine what we did wrong to learn from the experience. It is also true that “what we sow we shall reap”. But before you consider yourself or others a failure, I would like to give you a few things to think about.

Failure is a strong word. It even sounds harsh and judgmental. In the western world it is often applied to people in a condescending way. It is also typically used in a way that emphasizes permanence. When someone is designated a failure it is often implied they have little value and the opportunity to change their situation is minimal. When an event is called a failure it is often implied that the results were miserable and unchangeable. But is this really the correct definition of this coarse word? Is this the proper perspective for a leader to have?

First of all, a failure is relative to time. How do we know we have had a good day? The answer is often relative to the passing of time. Sometimes we may believe we have had an excellent day only to find out later that something else was going on we didn’t know was occurring. When we analyze the day in its entirety it turns out to be different than we first thought. On the other hand, we have all had days that seemed to be bad. Maybe everything appeared to go wrong or we may have had a big single event that turned the entire day into a negative frame. Yet, as we look back at the events of that day it may have turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to us! Time turns a lot of failures into successes. The first great American general was George Washington. But early in the American Revolutionary War few would have called him adequate, let alone great! He lost virtually every battle and skirmish against the British troops. He and his men were demoralized and at times it appeared the war was lost. Yet time proved these battles had just the right effect. The British resolve to keep the American colonies was being diminished with each battle and with the loss of each British solder. It turned out that winning battles was not as important as the resolve to continue … no matter what the odds.

Time transcended George Washington from a failure to a hero. The same can be true in our lives!

We must often be prepared to patiently wait for our efforts to produce results we can see. It is easy to do something and expect immediate results. We many even suspect failure has occurred if we don’t quickly see something tangible happen. But remember that seeds grow underground before you can see them. Sometimes they grow slowly and first establish roots before we see any tangible evidence of life. Those of us who garden learn to wait for the flowers to bloom. In the same way we must be careful not to casually judge an action or event as a failure. It is very possible that not enough time has elapsed to correctly judge the results. That principle holds true in nature and in life.

The second thing about failure is that it is relative to your perspective. Something terrible may happen in your life, but upon close examination you may clearly see a “silver lining”. There is an old Norwegian story about a fisherman who was out to sea with his two sons. The day was very good and they had achieved a large catch that would make anyone proud. But then a storm suddenly appeared that was so fierce and dark they could no longer see the shoreline! The boat rocked and creaked violently and the three men thought they would lose their lives. As if that wasn’t bad enough, they lost their sense of direction and feared they would be lost at sea. Unknown to the fisherman, a tragic fire started at his home about the same time. It began in the kitchen of his cottage and destroyed every possession he had! The fisherman and his sons eventually found their bearings and were able to bring their boat safely ashore. When the men reached the dock, the fisherman’s wife was waiting to meet him with the tragic news of the fire. She uttered while crying, “Karl, a fire has destroyed everything we had”. “We have nothing left!” But the fisherman appeared to be unmoved by her news. She continued, “Karl, are you listening to me…everything is gone!” Karl nodded his head and replied, “Yes dear…I heard you…but a couple of hours ago, the boys and I thought we would die at sea. We were in despair and losing hope we would ever find the shore. Then I saw a dim yellow glow in the distance. We rowed toward it closer and closer and it grew ever larger drawing us toward its light. The same fire that destroyed our home saved our lives!”

Karl understood an important lesson. Failure is often success when we see it from a different point of view. If we have a positive mindset it is virtually impossible to reflect on any event which doesn’t have some good in it, if only we are willing to look for it. In 1872 a severe drought occurred in California that shriveled up a farmer’s entire grape crop. All other farmers considered their crops a failure. However, one farmer sent his “dried up” grapes to a grocery store and they were advertised as Puruvian delicacies. These decimated grapes even began to sell for a premium price far above the cost of fresh grapes! And from this crop failure, we have all been eating raisins since that time! Again, failure is largely determined by our perspective and point of view. If you consider yourself or an event as a failure perhaps another look is in order!

The perception of life at any given moment may not reveal its true meaning. Most of us make the mistake of judging events by too short of a segment of time, or too few events! If we judge everything by too few circumstances, we will incorrectly read the whole of life by a few isolated events. Perhaps another day away or over the next hill we will be able to view what appeared to be a failure as a true success. The people who win are those who hold on to their hopes and dreams and patiently wait for the proper perspective to become clear.

Many folks feel like failures because they need the right standards to measure success or failure. Success is not the achievement of power, prestige or great influence. Many individuals achieve these things but are not happy or even content with what they have. Many athletes and entertainers achieve these things only to lose it all in an orgy of self-destruction. Success is doing what you can, with where you are, and what you have to work with!

Achieving our best is always limited by our circumstances. It is easy to say, “if only I have known or if only I could turn back the hands of time”. But we simply can’t do that, because no one can know everything. We all have to make decisions and plot our direction only with the information we presently have at hand.

In conclusion, as a leader be careful how you define a “failure” and how quickly you make this judgment. Yes, when we feel we have “missed the mark” or failed, we should seriously examine what we did wrong to learn from the experience! But, remember that failure is relative to time. What may appear to be a failure today may have planted the seeds for success later on. Secondly, failure is often success when we see it from a different point of view. With a proper perspective…what we actually experience or the “end result” may be far different than what we immediately see.

Many years ago a young struggling cartoonist lost his job when he was told by his boss “he couldn’t draw and had no talent”. He decided to work for himself and find his own clients. After a long period of struggle and failure he found only one customer! A minister paid him a very small amount of money to draw advertising for his church. The cartoonist was so downtrodden and pathetic the church allowed him to stay in their mouse-infested garage. While he lived there he drew cartoons that no one wanted, and nicknamed his favorite little mouse who scurried in the garage…Mickey. From apparent failure Walt Disney transcended disappointment and misfortune to become a success. He achieved this by believing in his vision, and his mission along with time and a right perspective.

So can you!

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Greg has an extensive thirty-five years experience in public speaking and has spoken to hundreds of audiences worldwide. Greg has a Master of Arts degree in Leadership from Bellevue University, where he also has served as an adjunct professor teaching courses in business management and leadership since 2002. His first book, 52 Leadership Tips (That Will Change How You Lead Others) was published in 2006 by WingSpan Press. His second book, Making Life's Puzzle Pieces Fit was published in March 2009. Both are available at amazon.com. Greg is also the president of Leadership Excellence, Ltd and a Managing Partner of the Leadership Management Institute. Leadership Excellence, Ltd. effectively builds individuals and organizations to reach their highest potential through enhanced productivity and personal development using a number of proven programs. He is also the president and founder of weLEAD Incorporated.